11. He offers to help without you asking. If he is willing to go out of his way to help you, without you having to ask, you’ll know he truly cares about you. You’ll be able to count on him as a true partner.
12. He’s attracted to you (with or without the extra 10 pounds). Our bodies change over time, especially post-pregnancy. If you’ve found a guy who loves your body in any form, you’ll feel much more secure in the relationship over the long term.
13. He shares your values. It’s easy to miss the subtle signs that your guy might be a keeper, so start with your values and think about how someone’s actions might reflect those values. For example, if you’re divorced mother with kids, family may be one of your top values. If your guy is willing to rearrange his work schedule so he can attend his kid’s school band concert or sports meet, that speaks to his commitment to family.
14. He supports your career. Married life isn’t just about the fun and social parts of life, so it’s important to open up to your partner about your work. As you share a problem you’re facing, watch how he reacts. If he asks more questions, remembers other conversations, suggests possible solutions and helps you brainstorm, that’s a good sign that he’s supportive of your career and won’t be threatened by your success.
15. He encourages your friendships and interests. It’s not realistic to think your partner can satisfy all your emotional needs, so if your guy encourages you to maintain your friendships and interests, don’t start thinking it’s because he isn’t that into you. On the contrary, he’s giving you the space you need to be a whole person. Follow his lead and your relationship will be off to a healthy start.
16. He shows he cares. When he wakes up on a cold night, he pulls the blankets snug around your shoulders. He offers you a taste from the best part of his meal. He saves you the last bite of dessert. He puts down his electronics and listens without over-reacting even when you are crabby, hormonal or flipping out … and then he gives you a hug.
17. He has your back. He’ll offer to forego the big game on TV — and mean it — to come change your flat tire or get you chicken soup if you’re sick. He’ll publicly take your side if you are in conflict with others, but also gently and privately tell you if he thinks you’re not acting in your own best interests. If you say you want couples counseling, he’ll go willingly … and he actually likes your friends.
18. He is sensitive and communicative. He never says you got a bad haircut. He knows how to say “I was wrong” and “I am sorry.” He says you’re beautiful even without makeup, or first thing in the morning. He will talk until 2 a.m. if you need to so you don’t go to bed upset or feeling alone.
19. He doesn’t pretend to be perfect. A guy who can show you his flaws means he can accept yours. If he is still trying to be perfect after date two or three, he either doesn’t recognize his own flaws or is practiced at hiding things.
20. He talks to you about birth control and safe s*x. If he can have an open conversation with you about s*xual health and family planning, it means he takes responsibility for his own health, thinks about the future and will be a supportive partner with you in your health decisions.
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