One fine morning, my friend was brushing his teeth, hand on the basin to support him. Suddenly, his hand slipped and broke into many pieces! All of us went to visit him in the hospital and tried to cheer him up! Strangely, none of us said, “I’m never going to brush my teeth because it results in hand break!” And yet, everyone says, “Being in a relationship leads to heart break. I’m never going to do it again This I realised while talking to a friend who is otherwise successful and confident. While she wants to be married, her refrain is, “So many marriages have broken up around me that I don’t think there’s any point in getting married. It’s not going to last anyway!” And I want to tell her to stop brushing her teeth! Or stepping out on to the road for fear of accidents. Or stop eating because it could lead to food poisoning. Or sitting at home, the roof may cave in. Or going for a swim, a walk, shopping, driving, sleeping, smoking, drinking, partying yada yada!
My question is, “What is the point of this life if we are going to live in fear?” Did we not appear for exams for fear of failing? Do we stop looking for jobs because we didn’t get one? How afraid of living do we plan to be? What in the world carries no risk? Is there anything absolutely safe? Can anyone assure me that the next time I plug in that hair dryer, I won’t get electrocuted? Or that I’ll land safely every time I fly?
Also, can anyone guarantee that a relationship will work or fail for sure? Are we going to give up on the most beautiful experience in life because someone else couldn’t do it? Do we have no faith in ourselves?
The first time we had to dissect a frog in biology class, I fainted! My lab partner didn’t care that I failed at it. She went ahead and did it and is a surgeon today! Guess someone forgot to tell her that she would fail at it because I did! Ditto walking on the moon, scaling Mount Everest, sailing around the world or simply making potato soup! I can’t do any of this, but lots of people can. Because they tried it for themselves!
So go ahead and make mistakes, fail if you must, or succeed, but stop living in fear! Keep physical safety in mind and just do it, because, trust me, hearts heal – every time!
Noting is Perfect just don’t give up on love…………Fashoyin Damilola
